The Salt Lake Tribune

Divorce Hurts Children

THURSDAY March 13, 2003
Letter to the editor from Andrea H. Een
THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE

Last year more than 150,000 divorce papers were filed in the state of Utah. Many of these couples are parents. All too often, these parents think their decision will not affect their kids or change their lives that much. I can assure you that this is not true.

In many cases, kids go into depression, or do physical harm to themselves when their parents get divorced. Separation of siblings can be devastating. Having to choose between parents and where you live is a choice no child should have to make. These concepts apply to children of all ages. In the eyes of a child, the family is supposed to be forever.

Of course, there are situations where divorce is the only option. However, married couples, especially those with children, should make every effort to preserve the bond of family. Counseling with a professional and/or a clergyman may be a good step to take.

Married couples need to try harder. Say, "I love you" every day, go all out on anniversaries and Valentines. If your are religious, go to church together as a family. Don't assume that your family knows you care. Make them feel loved.

I hope that couples considering this gigantic step will put more thought into it. Think of how the divorce will affect the family as a whole. If, after every possible thought, consideration, and action, divorce seems the only solution, take the right steps to provide emotional support for your children. Kids should never become pawns between warring parents.

ANDREA H. EEN
Clearfield

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